Don't Criticize, Condemn or Complain

Do you know someone you would like to change and improve?
Why do you want to do this?

I'm only in the Chapter 1 of the book I'm reading right now "How Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie, but this chapter really hits me.

Sometimes, I find myself criticizing other people, wishing them to get better. But I never realized that it would not bring any better to them. It would just lead them to resentment and won't bring any favorable results.

Here are some of excerpts from the book that hit me, and will surely hit you too.

• Criticism is futile because if puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself.
• Criticism is dangerous because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment
• Don't criticize people, they are just what we would be under similar circumstances
• When we dealing with people, let us remember that we are not dealing with creatures of logic, we are dealing with creatures of emotions, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
• Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain- most fools do so. But it takes a character and self control to be understanding and forgiving
• A great man shows his greatness the way he treats little men.
• God does not propose to judge man until the end of his days, why should you and I?

So next time we find ourselves judging and criticizing other people, why not begin on ourselves? It's a lot better than trying to improve others.

Your Online Life Coach,

Maya