Amalayer: Everything Happens for a Reason

Do you know Amalayer?

I guess most of us know her because of the video sensation that were spread in social media networks last year. To those who do not know her yet, she was the girl who became famous due to arguments she had with the lady guard in the LRT station. An anonymous person took a video of the incident and spread it in Facebook and Twitter. The video was quickly spread in such a way that the people named the girl in the video as "Amalayer" and this term became so popular across social media.

To those who were not able to see the video yet, here it is:




But, but, but...

That was just part of the story. Most of us didn't really know what happened before this incident. Nevertheless, many has reacted so violently about the girl's attitude in the video, and it caused her so much harm and depression.

Few days ago, one of my friends in Facebook posted the video of "Amalayer" taken from Club 700 Asia. I was curious, then I watched it. Let me share this to you now:




I'm inspired on how the incident actually had to happen so she can be closer to God. I was really amazed on how God can use the most difficult situation to teach us the most important lessons of victory.

"All things work together for good to them that love the lord, to them who are called according to God's purpose"

- Romans 8:28


Your Online Life Coach,
Maya

What Are You Focusing On?

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“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything what we think we become.”

- Siddharta Gautama Buddha

Let me tell you a story.

There’s this girl who was really excellent in one thing - COMPLAINING.

She’s rarely seen as happy, and when it happens, it would only last for a maximum of 10 minutes. She never gets content even though she’s always getting what she wants. She always sees the bad in every person. She’s an ultimate “WORRY-ER” because she doesn't trust people. She always says negative things even in the most positive that’s happening to her life.

She is very CRITICAL.

She is very NEGATIVE.

One day, as she browsing the net, she got the time to listen to a talk about “THOUGHTS.”

The talk was about how thoughts create people’s reality.

As she reflected, she realized the reason why she became negative and she remembered the days how she was  totally transforming to a “CRITICAL MONSTER.”

Yes, she was not like this before. She used to be a happy person. She used to be a content individual. She used to be someone whom everybody loves.

Now, maybe you’re curious, what happened? Why does she become so critical and negative?

Answer: Because she let herself focus on the negative ideas and thoughts the environment is dumping into her mind.

What happens to people who always focus on negativity?

A typical day of a negative person (like the girl in the story) is like this:

He wakes up in the morning, feeling sluggish, thinking how difficult a day would be. He rides to work via MRT, he sees the crowd and he complain because of mixed hot temperature and lack of discipline of passengers. When he arrives at work and sees how many tasks are assigned to him, he will complain. He eats at restaurant for lunch and he complains the service crew to his manager just because the crew just gave one extra ketchup for his french fries. He gets a raise in salary but he still complains because the raise is not that high.

Why do I know these?

Because I was a negative person.

The girl in the story is me.

I tell you, I was very pathetic. I felt so miserable during these times of negativity. The more I think of things as problems, rather than as blessings, the more problems I create.

First, I lose a lot of friends because of negativity. Of course, who would want to be with so critical and negative like me? Because negativity is contagious, most of my friends choose to stay away from me.

Second, because I feel sad and miserable everyday, I often get sick. I felt the most depressing moment of my life - sick and without friends. Poor Maya!

Third, I felt like I was a failure in every aspects - in my job, in my business, in my finances, in my relationships.

How I changed my focus

Changing my negativity attitude is not an overnight process for me. It was not easy, but it wasn’t that very difficult either. The key is FOCUS - I focused on the positive effects if I changed my thinking and actions - excellent relationships, promotions in jobs, success in businesses and closer relationship to God.

These are the baby steps I took so I can transform my focus on God’s overflowing blessings:

• I changed my thoughts. Everytime I wake up in the morning, I don’t entertain the difficult situations that might happened during the day. I pray first, thanking God that He has given me another day to be with my loved ones, to express my love to them, and to be a blessing to them. I envision a day full of blessings. I know that I will learn a lesson in every moment that will happen during the day (even if it’s good or bad). I will say to myself “Whatever will happen, whether it’s good or bad,I know that it’s gonna happen for my own good, because God knows what’s good for me.”

• I changed my habits. I was addicted to TV specifically to telenovelas before. I spent most of my spare time watching TV. But I realized that I got most of my negative ideas from watching these telenovelas. I’m not saying all TV shows and telenovelas drive negativity, of course, there are also good ones. But since I did not discern what to watch, that is the consequence.

I reprimand myself from watching TVs, and I began to spend my spare time in reading books, especially self help, development and financial books. The effect was magnificent. It diverted my energy and focus on what’s really important in life - relationships, health, and finances. I just imagined how much time I’ve wasted from thinking things that were not really significant in living a good life.

• I selected carefully the people to be with. I admit it, there are people who will criticize and condemn you, and there are people who will inspire you. I focus more on the people who constantly amaze and inspire me. I stay away from difficult people. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not mad at them nor I condemn them. I just limit the time spending time with them and I use most of my time spending with wonderful people.

• I got a vision. I began to write dreams for myself - on how to be a blessing to the people around me - to my family, to my colleagues, to the Christian community, to the society. I wrote my dreams in a notebook and I read them everyday. So when the day comes that laziness and negativity visit my mind, I would just read on my dreams so my focus would turn to these amazing dreams.

Our focus determines our success in life. Our focus creates our reality.

What you focus on flourishes.

Let’s all focus on God’s blessings!

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”

- Philippians 4:8

Your Online Life Coach,

Maya