Choose Your Battles Wisely

I've been in a different battles these past few weeks- battles of politics at work, financial battles and even battle in lovelife.. sigh! ( I guess a problem in lovelife is equally problematic as economic crisis.. LOL)

But when I got back to my senses, I realized that I spent a significant amount of time thinking and worrying about these battles - which I discovered are not all important in my life and purpose.

Worrying is indeed a thief. It steals our limited time and energy. Instead of working on something more productive, worrying makes us think of unnecessary things and it makes us expect bad things to happen. It can destroy us.

Life consists of making a decision between making a big deal out of something or realizing it doesn't really matter. In choosing our battles, we should make sure we focus on the important things - spirituality, relationships, serving other people, etc.. depending on what you think is your purpose in your life.

In our office, I'm always accused of being a "spy." My team mates don't like our manager (by the way, I'm working in a BPO where we work as a team) and they also want me to feel what they feel. My manager is into micromanaging, checking every specific detail of our work and most of my team mates don't like that. This is reality- there are some people who don't want to be treated like a child and want to do things their own way. I can understand my team mates.

When they tell a story to me, they noticed that I don't give any added inputs to their sentiments or I'm not telling a story about my personal encounter with my manager. Why? because I decided to do so. First, giving more negative inputs can make the situation worse. Second, it cannot change the situation by the way. I know that it's better to talk to my manager personally about it than talk about it behind his back.

Since then, my team mates began accusing me as a "spy" or even "sipsip." At first, I got irritated by these gossips and I thought of proving myself that they are all wrong. But when I pray to God and got back again to my senses, God told me that I have nothing to prove. I have not done something wrong so I should not take this battle seriously.

It's difficult, but as time passes by, by not thinking of what others would think about me, but by focusing on the truth, I learned to manage my emotions and not to dwell on this battle.

I remember what my mentor Bo Sanchez mentioned in one of the Feast's sessions:

When people criticize you or do not like you,
Most of the time, it's not about you.
It's about them.
So don't let people with problems ruin your day.

Instead of reacting with anger, just be funny and don't take it seriously.

We should all choose our battles.
Make a decision to have an inspiring life.
Have a compassion for ourselves.
Choose to be happy.
Be a blessing to others.

Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.

We are too big to be bothered by small things.


Have a happy life,
Maya